I’m in the preliminary stages of toilet training my son. Twice a day we put him on his potty and twice a day we do our best to keep my son’s penis inside the potty.

You see, my son is absolutely fascinated and wants to look at his penis. He wants to touch his penis. He wants to do everything but put his penis inside the potty. And because there’s so much back and forth with the penis, he usually ends up with an erection making it harder (pun intended) to put his penis in the potty.

All this penis play started when he was six months old. One day during a routine diaper change, my son’s hands were whipping around and he accidently felt his penis. I could see on his little face that this indeed was a very happy discovery.

Since that day, he has a death grip on his penis when he’s being changed—which I don’t mind because it’s better than him wriggling around the change table like a greased pig.

So, other than the times my mother has watched me change him and my son has a massive erection, I’m cool with his penis fascination. (Yes I’m a sex expert, but still weirded out by talking about my son’s erection with my mother.)

However, his penis love got me thinking. From age zero, males have a positive relationship with their penises—there have been ultra-sounds showing baby boys playing with their penis. Go figure.

Little girls, on the other hand, don’t have the same type of relationship with their vulvas. No need for a lip on the potty for us girls, as our vulvas are hidden and not so easy to access. It takes a lot more effort for us to see it or watch it pee.

Whereas men grow up having a life long love affair with their genitals, girls have always had to play catch up. Most gals don’t figure out how their vulva works until their teens or early twenties.

Is this one of the many reasons why women, in general, are so disconnected from their vulvas?

I’m very happy to report that I’ve met many a mother who takes a mirror into the bath tub and shows their daughter what her vulva looks like. Who teaches her daughter the correct biological terminology—vulva and not va-jay-jay. To respect, protect and cherish her body. These are all excellent steps to help the women-race be fulfilled in the bedroom.

I appreciate our society feels it taboo to talk about children being sexual. But the fact remains that we are sexual creatures from the time we are born until the day we die. Feeling and playing with genitals gives pleasure. Why should boys have all the fun?

Now if I can just figure out a way to keep my son’s penis in the potty.

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